The concept of no absolutes is hard to grapple. It’s the commitment to one OR the other that makes it the right choice for you. And sometimes option A is no better than Option B, it’s just different. Life isn’t as black and white as it’s made out to be. Mindset #2 – Don’t get stuck thinking there’s a right or wrong decision. Essentially, there is evidence that going with your gut instinct is likely to result in the best decision.īy all means, do the homework, but spend some time in silence, tuning into your gut too. Several studies over the past decade have shown that decisions made by the unconscious brain outperform those made by rational choice. (Who did I just lose referring to my unconscious self :p Let me back myself up friends). But what if there was another way? Because what if you can’t hear your true self, your unconscious self, with all that extra noise. We need to tap into the wisdom of family and friends. We need to lay out all the facts in a logical, rational fashion so we can weigh things up. Sometimes difficult choices mean we need to research our options. Two mindset shifts to help you make hard decisions Mindset # 1 – Ditch rational choice and listen to your instincts It’s not the knowing that’s hard, it’s the doing. If we really tune into ourselves we probably intuitively know the best path. Most of us know what the right decision is. Heck, it may be the bravest decision you ever make in your life.īut what if you found your life in the process? I’m wondering if you have something that you are deciding whether to walk away from or persevere? Do you give it all you have or take a different route? The red pill or the blue pill? I lost my job but found that a life worth living that didn’t hinge on fancy-sounding titles or wealthy bank balances, or overflowing calendars.I lost my job but found a way to live that wasn’t ‘ crazy busy’ all the time.I lost my job but gained a sense of peace and contentment I’d rarely felt before.I lost my job but gained my mental health, reducing my anxiety medication to a bare minimum over the last 9 months.I lost my job but I’ve gained an extra 6,300 hours with my youngest daughter before she starts school.And I haven’t regretted it for one moment. Ultimately I know that I chose my wellbeing and my family over money and possessions. An unwavering commitment to one or the other. Each option would require more bravery than I felt capable of. Risk not being able to pay our mortgage.Įach option presented its own benefits and risks. Quit, and go from two comfortable incomes to one. Risk losing everything in order to keep everything. Continue down the road of mental, emotional and physical burnout. I didn’t do it lightly, and I weighed the costs of both options. I did something completely contrary to the way I’d been raised. So I did something I never imagined I would. Completely spent with not an ounce left to offer work, let alone my precious family. It all seemed perfect until the day I sat in the car outside of work, tears running down my face, unable to move. Long years slogging away at my degree(s), a rare job opportunity that I couldn’t let pass me by. If you consider all of the elements listed above, then it’s simply a matter of addressing each one with a heightened sense of urgency.It was a tough decision. Great decisions balance short-term and long-term value. Finding the right balance between short-term and long-term risks and considerations is key to unlocking true value.Great decisions address the root cause, not just the symptoms. Although you may need to urgently address the symptoms, once this is done you should always develop a plan to fix the root cause, or else the problem is likely to repeat itself.Seek input and guidance from team members who are closest to the action. Great decisions are made as close as possible to the action. Remember that the most powerful people at your company are rarely on the ground doing the hands-on work.The right people with the relevant expertise need to clearly articulate their views to help you broaden your perspective and make the best choice. This doesn’t mean you should seek out everyone’s opinion. Great decisions are shaped by consideration of many different viewpoints.That’s something that will get you - and them - noticed. While others vacillate on tricky choices, your team could be hitting deadlines and producing the type of results that deliver true value. As a new leader, learning to make good decisions without hesitation and procrastination is a capability that can set you apart from your peers.
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